In a world where militant feminism seems to be on the rising, there seems to be a growing misunderstanding on everything about guys. For hundreds of years, guys have been seen to be strong creatures, almost powerful and immortal according to some thought. Big muscled men wearing armors and bearing shields fighting out there with other men have seemed to be the overarching stereotype that have evolved throughout centuries but retained that very idea: men are just fighting creatures. I believe that the abuse of some few men in the past may have contributed to the ideology of militant feminism that became divergent from feminism’s real aim as decades pass. However, it is this abusive behavior by men from centuries ago that alienated the real concept of a man. What is a man? Is it the strong, almost unemotional image or the one that is just true to himself for those he loves?
Men may have been given both biblical and cultural precedence but one fact remains that men are mere creatures created by God just like women. It is totally untrue that men are emotionless people but in fact are more emotional deep inside than women. While anger has been the dominant emotion in most men, nothing can hide the fact that anger is merely a mask of a man’s real feelings. It may seem that a guy is just plain angry but deep inside is the more sensitive person that he is, crying but not seen or heard. Generalizations in the concept of manliness has not only affected women but men themselves. These generalizations often stop men from expressing emotions that is part of our being human. In one instance, a crying guy is often seen to be unmanly or the fear of being labeled “gay” has been a hindrance for some to express brotherly love between male friends. An “I love you bro!” oftentimes draw some weird reactions not only from other men but from women as well. Were these generalizations true or still true at this present times?
In my personal opinion, they have never been true. The Bible itself is rich with examples of counter-cultural approach of manliness. David and Jonathan are best examples of intimate brotherly love. To the prevailing culture, their friendship would seem to be homosexual but in fact it is not. They are merely expressing love that is a design of God when he created humans for that matter and men to be specific. A lot of instances in the Bible, you can also see men crying for many reasons. Male prophets cried upon sight of their people’s destruction while Jesus Himself wept at the news of Lazarus’ death. Examples like these shows us that we must never subject ourselves to the world’s POV about men. It is never unmanly to show emotions, it is never unmanly for a guy to cry because he is sad, frustrated and lonely. In fact, it takes more courage to do such and that makes a guy who never fears to express himself as the manlier one. Far from being the victimizers, men are susceptible too and can fall victims to crimes that we never expect to be done to men like physical abuse, enslavement and rape, yes rape too. In the less grave situation, men can also be heartbroken, hurt when being cheated on and feel shattered on a break-up.
Guys are very human in bodily function and in emotion but most importantly like women, guys deserve to be happy too. A guy that is selfless, caring for others and never afraid to stand on what is godly deserves happiness equally as women of virtue and real beauty. We live in a generation where stereotypes are starting to be broken and so we must break this senseless stereotype we have with men. Real manliness does not come from physical strength or his show ultimate rash behavior but from the heart. Let us start to appreciate all the more guys who are true and contented with who they are. I encourage the girls as well to show appreciation to exemplary guys out there by telling them how great they are and how much you appreciate them. You have your fathers, husbands, boyfriends, brothers and every single guy out there. I am sure they (and I too) would appreciate such. Not only should girls do this but also guys like you and me. We should shed our old garment of manliness and take on what is truly us and what we are truly made of, a strong person with a tender heart.